Friday, January 29, 2010

The Mother in law! (in general...;-))

I just read a lot of random posts where DILs (Daughetr in law) vent regarding their MIL (Mother in....... you get it right?).

& few DILs had good things to say, especially the Indians!

The joint family system? That's opressive.

The MIL? The upholder of the opressive regime.

The DIL? the opressed, supressed, cut off from her parents, sob, sigh & sob again.....

Just noting, that I'm not crazy about my MIL,
as in, I'd not put up her picture next to my favourite pop star's,
if I was still at that age.
But I would definitely keep her pics in the family album,
& not because she would disown me otherwise!

& this has been my experience:

* MILs are not mothers, dont forget that!
* Having said that, they are all, DILsare going to have for mothers, this side of earth.
* Often they'll be unfair to DILs, because it's in to be so.. maintaining status quo & all.
* More often they'll be good to DILS, because they are mothers.
* They can ask the most stunningly bitchy questions, hello! They are women :-)
* Thay can also turn around, & prefer DILs to their biological daughters! Same logic, they are women ;-)
* Some MILs are pure evil, not mine.
* Some mothers are even more evil, again not mine!

As my own MIL eloquently summed it:
"Beta, aisa nehin hai ki mujhe meri saas se problem nehin thi,
ya tumhe mujhse nehin hoga!
Par jab meri saans chali gayi, mujhe samajh mein aaya!"

I often think, the bride's mother has to give her away once.
The bride's MIL has to give her son away every day.
It's bound to be a painful gift!

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